You're a nice girl but I'm not going to marry you.

He had decided. I was not the one for him. He did not see us growing old together. These are not the words a girl wants to hear. Not in an email. Not after a first date. He had warned me. This is what he did on first dates. Did he want to marry this person. Yes/No? Did he see this person as the mother of his children. Yes/No? Apparently, the answer was No/No. How do I respond? Tough call. ‘Ok, I’ll put Grandma’s wedding dress back in the attic. Take care.’ Then I called all my friends and we laughed about it. Another date from the world of online dating. ‘You’re a nice girl but I’m not going to marry you.’ Too funny.


How many times have I done this? How many quick decisions did I make without giving something a chance? Maybe I just never had someone spell it out to me so definitively. Yes/No. This person and I didn’t click. I had a pretty good idea before we met. But we might have become friends. We could have done something fun one day when neither of us had plans. He might have met someone through me or me through him. We’ll never know. So, be more open minded. Give things a chance. Try something new. Go to the party, talk to that guy, join the group, try the sweater, the color, the book. Yes/No/Maybe!